Monday, March 31, 2008

Happy Birthday, Bibi




Adelaide and I had a great weekend visiting with Bibi, her grandmother, and meeting Meemee, her great-grandmother. Adelaide flew beautifully and cooed and smiled at lots of travelers. She even managed to be cheerful on the travel home which didn't end until 11pm last night. I was so proud of my baby girl. I highly recommend taking a second child away on a trip. I feel like I got to know her a bit better and I felt like I was at a spa. There was no one to run after. We just toted her around from relative to relative and from friend to friend and from plane to plane. What a fun time we had. Addie particularly loved Bibi's cocker spaniels. When can we come back, Bibi?

Sunday, March 23, 2008

Alleluia! Christ is Risen

Our day started off with a 6:30 am wake-up on Addie's part. I know she was excited to see the empty tomb and just couldn't sleep in. She had a yummy breakfast complete with mashed banana and organic rice cereal. The rest of us broke our Lenten fast with sausage and homemade biscuits that Daddy made.



Then we all got ready for church, which collectively took almost two hours. Adelaide wore a pink dress that I wore as a baby. This was the first time she was decked out in tights and a dress in a very long time. Daddy has been dressing her for church in her hand-me-down red pajamas while I was working at St. Luke's. She looked great and Elias looked smashing in his seersucker jacket.




Church was quite an experience. I missed the opening hymn, a favorite, "Jesus Christ is Risen Today" because Adelaide needed a diaper change. We then got through the gospel reading only to hear the "good news" interrupted by some bad news. Adelaide needed another change. When Adam hadn't returned in time for the peace I went downstairs to investigate. I found a pretty pink dress wrapped in a plastic bag and a naked baby in the parish kitchen having a bath. I guess Easter without being born again isn't really Easter. So, Addie borrowed a green and blue onesie from a four month old and wore just that for the rest of the service. So much for pretty in pink!

Friday, March 21, 2008

4 Bowls and Counting



We thought our dear Addie had begun a fussy stage. She had begun to cry. Yes, this from the girl who barely makes an ugly peep. On a whim, we thought maybe we should try some rice cereal mixed with fruit. Well, during the course of today, she consumed four whole bowls of the mucky stuff. So, now our little girl is a big eater and before you know it those rolls in her legs will be able to hide all kinds of paraphernalia.

What Happened in Jerusalem, Mommy?



For the past few days, Elias has been asking me this question. I then give him a short answer to this question. We have a wonderful book that tells the story of Holy Week from the perspective of a donkey. We have been reading this most days this week. Elias really wants to hear about how Jesus had supper with his friends. Later he said to me, "They got angry at Jesus." That is how I have tried to explain Jesus' death to him. It's hard to know how much to tell him. I certainly want him to know that Jesus died--or else the resurrection would make no sense. However, there is also no need to focus on the gory details. It was amazing to me that Eli's first Bible told the story of the resurrection with no reference at all to Good Friday or the cross. I think we need to give kids credit for being able to handle more than what we might think. What I find so amazing about a child this age is that he really wants to soak everything in. He does not have any skepticism or doubts. He just wants to hear the story.

So, we have tried to intentionally share the story of Holy Week this year. Yesterday, after his nap, we tried to have supper with his Jesus doll. We practiced drinking wine and eating bread. We went to a seder last night, but unfortunately Elias ended up throwing up the grape juice all over his pajamas and new sneakers. I had hoped that he would enjoy the Seder a bit more than that! I'm not sure what that was all about because he was fine before and has been fine since. Today, we had the chance to bake bread on Good Friday. It seemed like a good activity as we prepare for an Easter Eucharist and also because we were snowbound all day. Yes, we are in the midst of a snowstorm on Good Friday. It seems strange to think of Jesus being crucified in the warm, arid desert and here we are in the cold, moist, Midwest!

Friday, March 14, 2008

By the way, I'm sitting up

My mom forgot to check up on my accomplishments. The other day, we were playing at our friend's and I sat up for about 5 minutes on my own. I still teeter totter, but I like the new perspective and I'm very proud of my accomplishment.









My brother is trying to one up me by sitting for much longer than I!

Two Peas in a Pod



So, besides the gender appropriate sweaters can you tell who is whom?



I hate to say it on this blog, but logic has it if Elias and Adelaide look alike then Adelaide looks like me, too. Everyone has said that Elias and I are clones. So, when Addie was born, Adam was sure that she looked just like him. And, her baby pictures did look like his. However, it appears that as Adelaide gets filled out she looks more and more like her mother--and she definitely has my elf chin and full cheeks. She has her father's coloring and hair. Poor Adam. We may need to try for another to make a clone of him.

Saturday, March 8, 2008

Lawsuit waiting to happen



Both of our children have not loved pacifiers unless they are this brand that spreads out across their mouth. These particular pacifiers also close automatically when they fall on the floor. (We might have cared with Elias, but we certainly don't now!) In any case, Addie had one in her mouth at dinnertime the other night and the next time I looked it was in five pieces on her tray. It had literally fallen apart. What was scary is that there were small metal pieces and the nipple part stayed intact, but small enough that she could have choked. So, of course, before removing the danger from my baby's mouth, I snatched a picture. Good mom that I am.

Napping naked

What is wrong with this picture?


Need I say more?When I went in to get Elias from his nap I discovered his dirty diaper on the floor along with his shirt, his pants, and his sleepsack, and one sock. It definitely appears that he does not like sitting in a dirty diaper, but he still seems eons away from potty-training.

Friday, March 7, 2008

McDonald's and the Gates of Hell

Last Sunday I was decked out in my usual clergy wear. Black skirt and black shirt with a white collar. After presiding at the 8am liturgy, I noticed my legs were a bit shaky and weak. I was afraid it was the flu, but then it dawned on me that I had not eaten breakfast. I must have been hungry. So, I jumped in my car and looked for the nearest open restaurant. Well, you guessed it. I landed at Micky D's. Because it was Sunday (a feast day), I ordered a sausage egg Mcmuffin. As I rifled for a five dollar bill to the pay the girl at the check out window, she refused to take my money. (My bill had come to 2.97.) She was holding a ten dollar bill in her hand and she told me that the who woman drove away before me said that breakfast was on her. "How nice" I thought. Until the girl handed me a tract and said that I was to be given this as well. Yes, you guessed it. There was nothing nice about that tract. The tract insisted that too many folks thought they were going to heaven when, in fact, they were really going to hell. Not a whole lot of good news in that. I didn't read much beyond that while I was in the car, but I made a smirky comment to the girl that the lady had wasted her ten bucks on trying to evangelize a pastor.

I later read the whole tract in the parking lot outside the church before the 10am liturgy. It made me so angry. I felt so sad that a person would think that buying me a sausage mcmuffin would make me pause and then think that I should repent from all my sins, beleive in Jesus Christ, and then inherit eternal life. Say nothing about the fact that the assumption was that I was in NEED of redemption. Say nothing about the fact that a relationship with Jesus Christ probably begins with more than a free drive thru breakfast. I wish I had been able to talk to that woman and say, "You know, there is a whole lot more to following Christ than being saved from a fiery future. There is sacrifice and pain and felloswhip and love and joy and grace and sin and hope and salvation." None of these things can be addressed in a tract alongside a golden arch. Have a nice day!

Sunday, March 2, 2008

Five Months Old!



Yes, believe it or not, time is flying by for our baby girl. While we know that comparisons are odious and certainly the root of all sibling rivalry, Adam and I have agreed that Adelaide has outshined her brother in breastfeeding, sleeping, napping, remaining calm, and entertaining herself. But, today we discovered that Elias sure had one up on Adelaide when he tried rice cereal as a baby. He dove right in and devoured it. Adelaide acts like we are using some form of Guantanamo torture when we try to get her to eat a tad of rice cereal. She just lets her tongue spit it right back out. So, tick one off for Elias; he really outshines his sister with his eating skills even though, ironically, he is thinner than most refugees from Southern Sudan.

Preachin' Day

This was my last day of serving as supply at St. Luke's Church. I thought I would publish on the blog my sermon for today. This is a thematic sermon, rather than a scriptural one. I wanted to reflect on the season of Lent primarily because we had to cancel both Ash Wednesday and Lent 2. If you do go on to read this, just keep in mind that the writing is written to be spoken. Therefore, some things may be elaborated on more by me when I preach, rather than when I write.

"Remember that You are Dust and to Dust You Shall Return."

Lent is my favorite liturgical season.
It really is.
But, this year I feel like we’ve gotten gypped.
Ever since I can remember Ash Wednesday, I have never missed a service.
I remember the humbling process of kneeling at the altar to receive those burned palms on my forehead.
As a teenager, I always felt conflicted about leaving them on my head or wiping them off. At that point in my life, I just didn’t want people to think I was weird walking around with a black smudge on my forehead.
But even then, I was aware that Jesus’ sacrifice made mine look quite trivial in comparison.
As a college student, I took to heart Jesus’ words, “Beware of practicing your piety before others in order to be seen by them.” (Matt. 6)
So, it made it pretty easy for me to smear those ashes off my forehead as soon as the service was over.
There was no way I was going to be a hypocrite!
(You know how college students are: working tirelessly to not be the hypocrites that the rest of the world is.)

When I became a priest and had the humbling honor of placing ashes on other people’s foreheads, I continued to rethink leaving the ashes on my own head.
I finally decided to leave them there.
As Christianity continues to be overshadowed by secular culture, wearing that outward mark is a visible sign that we Christians do have something to say and offer in the public arena.
“Remember that you are dust and to dust you shall return.”
Yes, the reality is that while we are loved and cherished by God, we are just not all that important.
All of our lives will end.
All of our works will someday be lost.
And we will go to the grave.
Lent is that time which is a preparation for the hopeful reminder that we are but dust.

Lent is a mystical time for many of us.
For me, it is a process by which I try to hunker down with God in a different way than I do for the rest of the liturgical year.
It is a time when God and I do the equivalent of pre-marital preparation, except that we do it every year.
It is a check-up and a tune-up and a tune-in—all in one.
For me, it is a time of following God with a few more rules and promises.

In many ways, I feel that during Lent I am more in touch with the ancient practices of Judaism—and I like that.
You see, Jesus said, “I came to fulfill the Law, but not to abolish the Law.”
When I took a class on Judaism in Seminary, I always marveled at how clear life was for Orthodox—or even Conservative Jews.
You knew the rules on the Sabbath—no riding in cars or pushing buttons on elevators because that is work.
You knew that if you were a man you would put on a prayer shawl each morning and strap on phylacteries and pray the psalmist prayers that have been prayed for centuries. You knew the right way to pray and the order in which one should pray.

You knew the rules for eating.
Keep a kosher diet.
Don’t let dairy and meat mix.
Certainly no Big Macs with cheese.
No bacon and sausage.
And no shellfish.
All of these clearly delineated rules appealed to me as ways of honoring God.
And certainly they were less confusing than some of Jesus’ statements…
“I am the living bread that comes down from heaven. Whoever eats this bread shall not die but shall live forever I am the bread of life those who come to me shall not hunger those who believe in me shall have eternal life….”
Leave it to John’s gospel to provide Jesus with some really cryptic sayings.
Not good old clear rules, like don’t eat lobster.
Instead we get literal bread and metaphorical bread and we don’t always know what to do with either.
Ah, but I digress.

One of the simple habits that I have taken up during Lent is to eat vegetarian.
Now I’m not someone who eats a lot of meat, but I do love a good hamburger or steak.
I choose to eat vegetarian for a very simple reason.
I like one of my devotions during Lent to be very concrete.
Avoiding eating meat is a physical thing.
So, during Lent we cook lots of soups, and make vegetable lasagnas and struggle to get our protein in hummus and cheese.
There is something quite meaningful for me to have to remember God every time we do a grocery list and every time we go out to eat.
As my eye scans down a whole menu until I find the eggplant sandwich, I am reminded that it is Lent.
And it doesn’t have to be high and mighty, just a quick recall that this is a different time of year with God.

I would add that this particular devotion makes Sundays during Lent the true feast day that they are meant to be!
On Sunday, we can eat eggs with bacon.
We often like to go out Sunday night and enjoy a juicy hamburger.
That is a physical reminder that the Lord’s Day is always a feast day.
We feast at the banquet of the Lord in the morning with bread and wine and we keep that feast for the rest of the day.
This practice helps explain why Sundays are in Lent, but they are not OF Lent.

I also believe that breaking our fast during Lent is a reminder that Lent is not an endurance test.
It is not about how strong our will is.
Can we hold out for that whole time?
If so, Lent becomes a marathon with us as the central actors, instead of a time of partnering with God.

I must confess that Lent is also a lesson in humility.
I have some other Lenten vows.
I’ve broken them either accidentally or willingly already –and we’re only half way through Lent.
I will share with you that I was at a birthday party for the kids the other day.
There were these nice pot stickers there.
I sat down and enjoyed a few.
I ate some rice, too, and some cabbage.
I didn’t even realize until I got home that I had eaten meat in those pot stickers.
It wasn’t even a moment of ambivalence or excuses or justifications, but rather absolute forgetfulness.
When I got home and realized what I did, I felt stupid.
But, I also felt relieved to know that I had just made a mistake and that God would graciously forgive me.


So, here we do sit half way through Lent.
I hope in some small way that God has claimed a unique spot in your life right now.
A spot that only you and God know needs God’s attention or yours.
I want to close with a story about Lent.
Back when I was a priest at a parish in Chicago, we would take the preschool children outside and burn the palm branches with them.
Usually it was a cold and wintry day and we would have a can of burning palms blowing in the wind.
The kids would stand back with their preschool teachers and marvel at those hot ashes and flames.
The next day, we would have the Ash Wednesday liturgy as a part of their preschool experience.
And we had these little tiny people at the rail.
I would have the privilege to mark their foreheads and say, “Remember that you are dust and to dust you shall return.”
The second year we did this, there was one little girl who was petrified of having the ashes placed on her forehead.
So, we certainly did not push it.
However, I later learned that she was scared because she thought the ashes would still be hot.
She remembered the burning from the day before and was afraid that she, too, would get burned if those ashes touched her forehead.

We are halfway through Lent. Where do you burn for God? Where does God burn for you? Remember that we are but dust and to dust we shall return.