
Now if we could just install a gerbil cage like this in his room!


While our dear friends were here, who happen to be a pediatrician and child psychologist, respectively, we got some feedback on helping Elias fall asleep at night. As I have said before, bedtime is a hard time for Elias--not because he misbehaves but because he can't help himself unwind. Some nights Adam and I turn out our lights while he is still busy talking to himself. So, Uncle Nathan took on Elias as his project over their three night stay.
The first night, he introduced the concept of staying in bed. We had always allowed Elias to play "quietly" in his room at bed time. However, we now know that hinders him from falling asleep. Some of his night behaviors include getting out of his PJS and changing into all green clothing because he is Peter Pan. Or, as of late, he has been pushing his rocking chair into the closet and taking down all clothes hangers to make into Captain Hook hands. So, the first night involved minimizing distractions and learning to stay on the bed. Estimated sleep time was about 8:45 taking him around an hour and fifteen minutes to wind down.
The second night introduced keeping your head on the pillow and feet under the covers. This worked for a while until Elias found a comb in his dresser which he quickly turned into a sword. But, Uncle Nathan took that away and contemplated taking away the pillows on his bed because he was trying to turn them into a ship. Then Uncle Nathan added an incentive of listening to a book CD when he woke-up in the morning if he did a good job of falling asleep. A few setbacks during that night were Elias new "emergencies" Nathan had told him the only reason he could get out of bed is if he had an emergency. So, every time he had to pee he yelled, "Uncle Nathan I'm having an emergency!" He was asleep by 9pm that night.
The last night, Uncle Nathan smartly realized that the light was keeping Eli up. So, after a short while the light went out and it was much harder to be distracted. The little guy fell asleep at 8:30--his earliest yet. In the morning he was rewarded with putting his CD on.
Last night, we flew solo and we bought a timer. The timer went off and then Elias knew it was time for the light to go out. He fell asleep at 8:30 and slept until 7:30! What a victory. I think the best thing Nathan observed and articulated for Elias is that "Daddy goes to work all day at the church and it's hard work. Your hard work is falling asleep." Elias seemed to resonate with that.