Friday, February 25, 2011

My Author Keeps Writing

Long ago our State was for Colonies
This is Betsy Ross.  She is sewing an American flag.
This is the Revolutionary War

This is the Revolutionary War
This is George Washington.  He is firing cannons and guns.


This is Abraham Lincoln.  He had to become president.


School Board Update
I made my case at the school board meeting last night.  Since I had never been to one, I certainly realized that my speech will probably make no difference.  But, I was able to raise some awareness.  I have to see whether God is calling me to keep up the fight.  If so, I'll need to get a petition going, write an article for the paper, get the outside media involved, and try and unseat the current member of the school board from Media if she does not act on our proposal.  It's good I'm married to someone with a background in political science, but I'm not sure hoe I can do this , raise my three kids, and work a half-time job.

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

New Tutu Makes a Splash

 Even while cleaning, we must wear our new tutu from Bibi.
 Adelaide was asking if the vacuum cleaner was two years old or three.  Then she wanted to measure it to see if it was a big girl like her.
 This is the inside of the Valentine Adelaide made for us at school.  I love it on so many levels.  The girl obviously loves food.  She also loves that her mom makes simple foods with her and that her father makes gourmet foods for her.  Not bad!
This came home in Elias' lunch box today.  Obviously he had a disagreement with the chef.

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Pink Eye Brings an (Almost) Clean Nose




I noticed that Jed's eyes were sort of crusty for two mornings.  The first time I thought it was just a gross mushing of his snot up to his eye.  But, the second moring I wondered if it was something else and relaized it could be pink eye.  Well,  it was.  Now two days later, his nose seems to be clearing up.  Coincidence.  So, I took some pictures of the boy with the (almost) clean nose.

Lost tooth...Lost Innocence

I never thought that the loss of a first tooth would bring me to my tears and I certainly never thought it would have the same effect on my husband.  Alas, our sweet Elias told me yesterday that his tooth was loose.  He's been saying this for some time, but because he absolutely lives in a fantastical world I just assumed it was more of the same.  In fact, I was keenly aware that his little sister almost lost two teeth at age three, about three months ago, and I thought he was just trying to push the competition.  But, no , yesterday after he was eating an apple he showed me his tooth and it was truly wiggly.  We happened to be with my mom and she explained to him how when she was a kindergarten teacher she helped kids with loose teeth all the time.  She told him that she guessed it would come out in two days. 

Well, tonight as he was brushing his teeth a cry of jubilation erupted from the bathroom.  His tooth had fallen into the sink.  We all yelped and danced around a bit and then Addie told him she "was so proud of him."  He put his tooth in a baggie and as I write is already asleep--which is a miracle for Elias.  He can't wait for the tooth fairy to come and even more he can't wait to show his class because he is the first child in his class to lose a tooth.  He did think that he was six now because I had told him he probably wouldn't lose a tooth until he was six years old.  Now I just had to explain that it happened earlier.




Certainly, the loss of a tooth is so minor, but it symbolizes that our little boy is really growing up.  There is such a thing as anticipatory grief--the idea that we already grieve some of the losses to come.  I sure have thought about the first day of kindergarten and that emotional day, but never thought much about the loss of the first tooth.  Now, wait till Josiah loses his first tooth.  We may have to have a bottle of wine to drown our tears in!

When Daddy was away again!



This time, Daddy and Addie made a little trip together.  Daddy had to attend the funeral of his great-uncle and we decided that mom was tired of being home alone with the trio.  So, Adelaide got to go on a 7 hour trip to West Virginia.  She had a ball and was entertained my many doting second cousins once removed...or something like that!  Meanwhile back at the ranch Mommy and the boys made smoothies for dinner, baked brownies, made Valentines, and had a grand old time.  It sure is fascinating how family dynamics shift when certain people are out of the picture.  Of course, Elias was a peach because he got much of my attention and still dotes on Josiah.  He did come to the conclusion while they were gone that "Josiah has a permanent booger on his face."  This is absolutely and frustratingly true.  In fact, it's one of the reasons I have put so few pictures up of Jed this winter.  His nose is out of control.  Poor guy.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Angelina Ballerina








Our dear daughter has danced her way into the Angelina series.  I'm so glad.  As much as we love Annie, the musical, it has become a bit tiring to listen to the CD every day in the car.  It has so infiltrated our lives that Elias said the next baby we have will go and live in an orphanage.  When I protested, he said that he didn't mean Josiah, but the next one!  Adelaide is also over focused on orphanages.  She tries to convince her older brother that he should go live in one.  So, Angelina is a breath of fresh air for the mere fact that there is no mention of orphans or orphanages.  Now I was never, ever a dancer.  I was a soccer player, a swimmer, a tennis player, and even a lacrosse player.  But, in keeping with my tomboy image I desested anything that smacked of girliness--like dance, ballet, or gymnastics.  My daughter, however, loves shoes with sparkles and really enjoys dance and gymnastics.  Right now, she is enjoying a 12 week dance class.  It is so age appropriate and delightful.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

My Senator Responds

I wrote one of my Senator's about my concern about the No Child Left Behind legislation.  Obviously, I want the act repealed because of its detrimental outcomes for Early Childhood Education.  I'm glad I heard back from him, but he obviously does not share my perspective.


Dear Reverend Wilcox:


Thank you for taking the time to contact me about the No Child Left Behind Act. I appreciate hearing from all Pennsylvanians about the issues that matter most to them.

The No Child Left Behind Act, passed by Congress in 2001, amends the Elementary and Secondary Education Act (ESEA) and funds most federal programs for K-12 education. There are many concerns that must be addressed as the 111th Congress prepares to reauthorize No Child Left Behind, particularly the persistent underfunding of this ambitious plan to get U.S. schools back on track. Our schools must be held accountable, but they also need flexibility and sufficient resources in order to make adequate yearly progress as required by No Child Left Behind. The goals and philosophy underlying No Child Left Behind are ambitious and consistent with the scope of the problems that American schools face. However, a reshaping of this legislation is long overdue to give our schools and teachers the tools they need.

As a member of the Committee on Health, Education, Labor and Pensions, I will continue to be a strong advocate for Pennsylvania's education priorities as I work with my colleagues in reauthorizing No Child Left Behind. A quality education from early childhood through college is of paramount importance for both the child and for the future of the Commonwealth and of our country. My professional commitment to education began with my first job out of college when I taught fifth grade in North Philadelphia as part of my service in the Jesuit Volunteer Corps. In this brief time, I gained a firsthand appreciation of the challenges faced by our school teachers.

I look forward to hearing from my constituents as I tackle the reauthorization of No Child Left Behind, and I will certainly look to you as I make important decisions about the future of our country's public education system.

Again, thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. Please do not hesitate to contact me in the future about this or any other matter of importance to you.

If you have access to the Internet, I encourage you to visit my web site, http://casey.senate.gov. I invite you to use this online office as a comprehensive resource to stay up-to-date on my work in Washington, request assistance from my office or share with me your thoughts on the issues that matter most to you and to Pennsylvania.

Sincerely,

Bob Casey
United States Senator

Once again, I will be attending the Rose Tree Media School Board Meeting on Thursday, February 24th.  If anyone would like to join me, please let me know.  I will especially be speaking out for the reinstatement of recess for kindergartners and advocating for "homework free" kindergartens.  Please join me.

Monday, February 7, 2011

Pregnant Priest Not a Crackhead

Pregnant priest not a crackhead!
An Isthmus' article on the case, by Bill Lueders, published Sept. 16, 2005


At first glance, or even a second, Melissa Wilcox does not fit the profile of a down-on-her-luck crack addict. She's middle-class, mild-mannered, and has never had any run-ins with the law. Did we mention she's an Episcopal priest?

But Wilcox, who tends to the flock at St. Francis House on the UW-Madison campus, nonetheless found herself being accused by a Madison police officer of having lent her car to a drug dealer in exchange for $75 in crack.

"She says do you want to come clean?" writes Wilcox in her complaint against the officer, Denise Markham. "She says you can tell the truth here or uptown. She says that she could take my picture to the Allied Drive neighborhood and show it around and have people identify me."

Wilcox's husband, the Rev. Adam Kradel, was present for this encounter: "Markham was being very aggressive, telling my wife she needed to confess." The officer then took Wilcox aside and told her that the man found driving her car knew she was pregnant, among other things. (Did we mention that Wilcox, at the time, was eight months' pregnant?) This made Wilcox afraid that she'd been stalked -- and might be again. In fact, Griffin only "knew" this because Markham had let it slip.

Some background: On July 31, Wilcox returned from a week-long vacation to find her parked car missing and two messages from Madison police telling her it had been found -- in the possession of a hoodlum named Eric Griffin.

Griffin insisted to police that Wilcox lent him the car as payment for drugs. Some things gave his story credence: He had a key (apparently a spare that had been left in the glove box and forgotten), knew her first name (presumably from papers in the car) and gave a vague but not wildly inaccurate description. Also, Griffin's account implicated him in criminal activity.

Wilcox thinks the officer should have been more skeptical of Griffin and less quick to go Andy Sipowicz on her. But Markham's supervisor, Lt. Sandy Theune of the Dane County Narcotics and Gang Task Force, thinks Markham's approach was justified. "Someone was lying and at the time Denise did not know who," says Theune. "She was using very common investigative techniques to try and get down to the truth."

Eventually, she did: Griffin admitted making up his story about Wilcox. He is now in jail, charged with car theft and other crimes. The District Attorney's Office declined to charge him with obstructing (lying to) an officer, as the MPD wanted, opting to focus on more serious counts. (For Wilcox's complaint and Markham's report, see Document Feed at thedailypage.com.)

Lt. Brian Ackeret, the MPD's head of internal affairs, investigated Wilcox's complaint and made a preliminary finding that no department rules were breached. "I think the officer made a mistake in terms of making a credibility judgment," he says, adding that Markham will receive additional training in handling such situations. But he also says a veteran officer who played a role in the case called Griffin "one of the best liars I've ever met." Talk about a compliment suitable for framing.

Wilcox remains upset about how she was treated, and worries what it means for citizens less assertive of their rights. (As it is, she says being grilled by Markham made her understand how innocent people confess to crimes they didn't commit.) But soon, she'll have more important things to occupy her attention: As this issue of Isthmus went to press, she was apparently going into labor.



People lie to police officers all of the time, especially when they're trying to avoid taking responsibility for criminal conduct. And sometimes these liars have enough experience at it that they seem pretty convincing. An uncommonly good liar, and some aspects of a case that seemed out of place, led a Madison police officer to confront Melissa Wilcox with the accusation that she had a secret crack habit and had given her car to a petty criminal in exchange for the drug. Wilcox held firm, and the liar eventually 'fessed up. But Wilcox came to resent how she was treated, and to question how the situation was handled. After all, Wilcox had no criminal past, was an Episcopal priest and she was eight months' pregnant. What basis did the officer have to accuse her? The following materials may shed some light. One aside: Careful readers may notice that the officer's report makes no mention of the statements she allegedly made when confronting Wilcox. Lt Brian Ackeret of the Madison Police Department says he believes Wilcox's account is factually correct and that Markham's report, written after the fact with the benefit of hindsight, may have omitted some details of her encounter with Wilcox. But Ackeret's preliminary conclusion is that Markham did not violate any department rules, including the rule requiring complete and accurate reports. Officers always and of necessity leave some things out.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Justice! Finally, but justice.

Madison police officer resigns under cloud, will get 8 months' pay

This is the police officer who came to our home when I was 8.5 months pregnant and accused me of being a crack-addict.  She threatened to take me "downtown" and verbally abused me.  She tried to convince Adam that I was a liar about both my crack addiction and my crack-smoking boyfriend.  She was convinced I had loaned my car to him in exchange for some crack.  She never checked any facts for if she had she would have seen that I had not taken a cab the night he said we were together at the sleazy Highlander Motel; in fact, I was out of town on the East Coast.  After she left our house and questioned me over and over, she told me she was not sure whether she could hold the man who had stolen our car and claimed I was his girlfriend.  Therefore, fully pregnant with Elias, I worried about our safety in my final days of pregnancy.  Ultimately, Eric Griffin, the thief, confessed to his crime after more questioning and was later sent off for more prison time.  He had been on parole.

We never received an apology from the officer.  In fact, when she heard we were filing a complaint, the antagonism was heightened.  We later heard about more people who had problems like ours in relation to her.  Common, ordinary citizens.  We did get a letter from the Chief of Police, but no apology.  He only said she was in the bounds of her duty in terms of her behavior toward me.

The only funny piece of this whole experience was that when Elias was born the nurses had all read an article about our mistreatment by the officer.  The article had come out the day before.  The nurses joked that Eli was really healthy for a crack baby.  And, he sure was at 8 lbs 4oz.

Interestingly enough, I testified against her in another case about two years later. She had threatened an African-American woman verbally and pushed her up against a wall while she was in her nightgown.  If Markham's claims were true, the woman would have lost her section 8 housing and become homeless with a small child.  I spoke about the ways in which she intimidated me.  My testimony and witness got this woman off.  The lawyer said it was the first time in years that he had had success in this realm.  Even then, I felt slightly vindicated.  Now I feel truly vindicated.

Officer Denise Markham was under investigation by the Madison Police Department for alleged misconduct.

A veteran officer assigned to the Dane County Narcotics and Gang Task Force has resigned from the Madison Police Department after an 18-month investigation cleared her of illegal activity but found several policy violations that included "overbearing, oppressive or tyrannical conduct."

Denise Markham, 46, who has been on paid leave since June 2009, resigned on Dec. 31 but will continue on the city's payroll until Sept. 6, when her sick days, vacation and comp time runs out, Police Chief Noble Wray said.

Keeping Markham on the payroll for eight months after her resignation will cost the city $44,415, according to the city comptroller's office, including payment for vacation and sick days she accrued while on paid leave.

Wray, who released a brief summary of findings from the 18-month investigation Friday, said Markham's resignation was part of a negotiated settlement. Given contract provisions and the additional expense and time it could take if Markham appealed to the Police and Fire Commission, "this is really the best deal for all parties involved." Wray said.

Investigators found numerous incidents that revealed a pattern of policy violations over Markham's 4-1/2 years with the task force, Wray said. Wray on Friday declined to release details of those incidents; a request by the Wisconsin State Journal under the state's open records law to view the entire investigative report is pending.

Broadly, investigators found Markham:

• Filed incomplete or inaccurate reports

• Conducted improper searches

• Conducted improper seizures of private property

• Improperly handled controlled substances

• Engaged in "overbearing, oppressive or tyrannical conduct."



"This is a unique case," Wray said. "Generally, we look at officers involved in single incidents or a few violations. What's unique about this case is that it is really a review of the work she'd done."

Andrew Schauer, who represents Markham as an attorney for the Wisconsin Professional Police Association, said she'd been singled out for minor policy infractions. Of all the police reports reviewed during Markham's assignment to the task force, investigators found only one case in which a supervisor questioned the way she handled property, he said.

Markham, a 22-year veteran of the department, agreed to resign rather than fight the allegations, primarily because of "personal family medical issues," Schauer said. Markham declined to be interviewed, he said.

Markham earned the vacation and sick leave she's taking through Sept. 6, Schauer said. "The department took 18 months to investigate," Schauer said. "That doesn't mean she was on some 18-month vacation. Being on suspension is not a vacation."

In resigning, Markham walked away from the city's contribution to her retirement fund for the 22 years she worked for the police department because she wasn't yet fully vested, Wray said. But she has a right to her unused leave, he said. "It's contractural," Wray said. "I understand how this may look from a taxpayer's standpoint, but my hands are really tied as to what the process allows me to do for termination."

Markham made $33.84 an hour, for an annual salary of $65,988, excluding overtime, said Pat Skaleski, payroll accountant in the city comptroller's office.

She has 977.5 hours of sick leave banked, Skaleski said, having earned half a day of sick leave each pay period, including the time she's been on paid leave. She also has about three weeks of vacation and 38 hours of comp time that was carried over since 2007, Skaleski said.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Three Quotes

 Another snow day and Addie is entertaining Jed
 with peek-a-boo

 A celebration of Josiah's nine month birthday last week!
Elias:  How can God hold the whole world in his hands if he doesn't work out?
Me: How do you know he doesn't work out?
Elias: There are no gyms in heaven.

Adelaide: I want to get married a little bit, but not so much.

Josiah:  Still saying "All done!"